Yesterday, The Naughty Bride suggested that brides (and grooms) put their naughty smiles into auditory action and access their Inner Phone Sex Operators.  For some Naughty Brides, this is a no-brainer.  For the rest of us, especially the more educated and accomplished we are, our brains get in the way.  

For some "strange" reason, the more educated or accomplished we are, the more women tend to think.  And while thinking's great for strategic planning, thinking isn't what a relationship is about.  It's about feeling.  If your partner doesn't feel loved, he isn't, no matter how much you might feel like you love him (or, in deference to the Proposition 8 ruling yesterday, her).  

So us upitty wimmin assume that because our love "knows" mentally that we love him/her, that he/she can hear it and feel it and know it in his/her body.  Not so.  That no-brainer?  It really is about having no brain.  It's about short-circuiting the cognitive connection and accessing the senses directly. Did you know you can send your love into orbit with just a purr?  Sure you did, you naughty thing.  There are times you know your least murmur melts in his/her mouth.  So... the logical, thinking-brain thing to do is use that knowledge to keep your connection going all the time.  

We can already hear you objecting.  "All the time?!!"  Technically, yes.  But logically, just most of it. No Naughty Bride is perfect, not even in her naughtiness.  That's what being Naughty's all about.  Just ask our Naughty Bride of the Day, Judge (soon, Justice) Sotomayor -- that sweet smile, that empathy, those brains.  She's got it going on.  

Now it's time to practice.  Leave yourself a voicemail in your normal businesslike voice.  And then do it, same words, as if you were whispering to pillow talk.  Then listen to both.  Which call would you return, first?  

For a follow-up, for the next ten times you call your love -- whenever you can -- practice first.  Leave yourself any message you want to send your love, then listen to it.  If it's not fun, funny, sexy or sweet, try again.  There's too much at stake here.  It's the very fabric of your family, the months, years, decades you have invested of the only life you've got.  So, prattle when you must, but try not to bark.  Purr.

"Hey Darlin'

I just

want

to hear

your voice."